Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Women need not be helpless!

Time and again, women find themselves all alone at home for various reasons: The partner may be off to work, the children may be at school.

I'll offer the advice given by one of the characters in L.L'Amour's novel, "comstock lode". "look about you, it's not necessary to have a gun or a knife...everywhere are weapons. Study your own room, your own neighborhood as if it was a battleground. Learn how to use it for your defence,for escape, for counterattack! Have a plan. Know what to do when he comes through the window..."

She tells a story of a woman who found herself alone and had no weapons. One night a robber broke into her home. "...she took the paint brush from the red paint pot and as he reached for her she slashed him across the eyes with her red paint brush! He opened his mouth to howl,and she thrust the brush down his throat,then she dumped the paint over his head and began flailing him with the empty bucket.

He fled, and the police caught him down the block in a sorry state... and she? Afew flecks of red paint on her flannel night gown!

Obama on Domestic violence

During the domestic awareness month, Obama stated that one in every four women will experiece domestic violence in her life time. However, statics mean s*?"! I mean, imagine you are 'the one in four' who gets the stuffing kicked out of,would it console you to know that at least there are three women who are not being clobbered?

The interesting nugget of information I gleaned from that speech was that "...these women could be people we love- a mother, a daughter or a sister" . Glaring omissions: a wife and a lover! I guess he knows that there are only three queens in a man's life. The rest, get a life !

By the bye, how would a lover or a wife know that her partner is a 'candidate' for Domestic violence category? The following links may help: www.helpguide.org www.nlm.nih.gov www.allaboutlifechallenges.org

REMEMBER: Domestic violence is all about attempts at DOMINANCE by one partner! This essentially means that the person who commits the act has some kind of weakness and is trying to cover up. I am not telling you this so that you can feel pity, just FYI. You dont believe it?

Thursday, April 2, 2009

GENDER contradictions in the society

1.Almost all males of the human species ADORE their mothers and dote on their daughters. In the same breath most often look down upon the rest of the female gender some even going to the extreme of abusing them, their wives included!

2. Traditionally, men considered their daughters as less than valueless, and yet they comfortably transformed them into cash-cows, levying hefty dowry fees for the privilege of marrying them. In fact, men who didn't have daughters rarely had the luxury of marrying many wives as boys couldn't be "sold" to provide the dowry for the same.

"Strength of a Woman"

Did you know that?
(a) Generally, women live longer than men?
(b) It is almost impossible for men to carry a pregnancy for nine months and then survive the child birth?
(c) Very few men, if any, can multitask, a common phenomenon in women?
(d) Generally, men who are married (to women) live longer and healthier lives than single men?
(e) Majority of households in Kenya are run by women especially in this age of ‘absentee’ husbands?
(f) Very few men, if any, can successfully manage to raise a child as a single parent, a common phenomenon in many ladies?
(g) The first person to preach about Christ was a woman?
(h) You can go on and on with these kind of questions until you ask 21 questions?

In your 21 questions, is it possible to pinpoint something that remotely resembles a weakness? Because the last time I checked, women were not only just vessels, but weak vessels.. in fact this goes on to prove that women are actually more equal than men!

I am asking all the successful ladies out there (university/college students and lectures, business executives, employees (private and government institutions): How would you feel if I came up to you and told you that you are in that position just because you were favored over a male colleague and not because you are capable?

This is basically the translation of Affirmative action: 1 woman = ½ man. It advocates for the tilting of the playing field in favor of the better team; much like a match between Man U (women) Vs. Harambee Stars (men), which have exchanged uniforms. How would you even enjoy such a match?

This flawed perception of the female gender as weak has greatly contributed to gender- based violence especially one directed against women. You should always remember that any man who perpetrates violence against women/children has a weakness (either mentally or physically), and is trying to prove to himself that he is strong. He therefore seeks something weaker than himself to hit on. Since the ladies have been told they are weak they, therefore, neither defend themselves nor run away.

It is therefore time to change the perception of women as weak:
• If you call yourself a strong lady, back it up and make an effort to learn at least one basic physical defensive or offensive technique. Don’t get me wrong, I am not advocating for violence. But the Bible does not say that people who kill by the sword should be prayed for!

• I am encouraging girls’ schools to introduce defensive sports as a compulsory extra curricular activity.

• Parents with girls should treat them as strong human beings and not as weak vessels. They should make sure that they introduce them to defensive arts at the earliest opportunity. They should enable them to defend themselves.If you keep on telling a person is weak,and that she'll amount to nothing, rest assured that it will come true!

• I am planning in future to advocate for criminalization of the idea that a girl/lady can be ‘cheated’ into having irresponsible sex by a man! I am talking about future because currently some girls and ladies are still wallowing in the miasma of the ‘weak vessel theories’ so they can, conceivably, be ‘cheated’.

•Never agree to be part of the 30% being called for by Affirmative action theorists, unless you want to tell us you couldn’t make it through your qualification and capabilities.

For your own safety remember that “attack is the best form of defense”. This is because even if you accidentally got justice (it’s never guaranteed!), the damage will already have been done!